Emotionally Focused Therapy is a therapeutic model that focuses on emotions as the driving force in our lives. Especially for couples, EFT has become a globally recognized therapeutic model.
The emotionally focused therapist helps the couple understand how each partner contributes to and participates in a repetitive negative pattern of interaction - a "negative dance/ vicious cycle" that leads to insecurity, frustration, tension and distance. The therapist helps the partners change the steps of the "dance" and create a positive, safe and intimate relationship.
Emotionally focused therapy carries the message that people can have happy and fulfilling relationships. It is more than a clinically proven approach that helps couples experience deeper intimacy and deepen trust and feelings of security with each other.
In our practice we meet couples who want something more in their relationship. Some are trying to regain the past passion for each other and others are trying to survive as a couple. The turning point for most couples is not resolving certain disagreements and conflicts, but finding new ways to connect and overcome challenges together.
There are no perfect relationships. All couples have conflicts. But the way we handle them speaks to strength and connectedness or stress and alienation. If imperceptibly everyday difficulties have built up as insurmountable problems, you may find yourself in a difficult situation. Here are some warning signs to remind you to take care of your relationship:
- Few of the disputes between you ever come to a resolution.
- It feels like walking on thin ice. If you find yourself avoiding certain topics to avoid conflict, this is a sure sign that you lack security in your relationship.
- You find it difficult to seek emotional support from your partner. Emotional disconnection in a romantic relationship robs it of life. If you can't trust your partner with your emotional vulnerability, then your relationship is at risk.
- You don't spend time together without good reason. Partners who choose not to spend time together without a good reason develop an emotional disengagement with each other. Spending time together is important for maintaining intimacy.
- Your arguments contain a critical, defensive and dismissive attitude. When you use attacks on your partner's character, insults and "labels" in your arguments; when you "read his mind" or complain in turn, the emotional security of the relationship suffers.
- It's been a long time since you showed your partner that you needed it. Shared vulnerability is how partners show intimacy. If you stop depending on your significant other emotionally, the relationship loses its meaning and you lose your closeness.
- Anger and frustration about your relationship have melted into indifference. Apathy drives you away. It is important to accept that there may be unresolved differences and disagreements. But simply giving up on a controversial topic can be a step toward giving up on the relationship.
- It appears that you are trying to control the circumstances instead of trusting your partner. Controlling actions are how a hurt or frightened partner responds to the uncertainty they experience in the relationship. Control undermines trust.
- You are afraid that if you share your thoughts and feelings, you will be criticized. If you fear that your partner doesn't care, then you are experiencing insecurity in the relationship. We usually deal with this fear by withdrawing and shutting down, but this proves to be a temporary solution, undermining trust that can jeopardize the relationship in the long run.
The cost of the session is 100lv, with a duration between 60 and 90 minutes.
You don't need to have any serious problems to take care of your relationship. If you just want to improve or renew your partner relationship, we offer you the "Hold Me Tight" program of 8 meetings.